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“Dirty Girl” Culture; Feminism or Self-Disrespect?

May 14, 2010

A couple of week’s ago CNN had a special on the increasingly familiar phenomena of a “Dirty Girl” culture; a culture in which “rude, crude, and sometimes very, very drunk” behavior isn’t only encouraged in young women but is celebrated.

Take a look at the video here.

To be fair, an opposing point of view can be read in this article by Jaclyn Friedman.

As usual, I want to let you guys debate this issue via the Friday poll. I’ll just say this; no one else will respect you in this life unless you first respect yourself.

And for me, at least, that’s true whether you’re male OR female.

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  1. Sapphire_Dani permalink
    May 15, 2010 9:34 pm

    its not just America that girls know right from wrong…. in the Caribbean, some of us teen girls have the harsh problem of “peer pressure” our parents think that, at the age of 13 to at least 16, we are too young to have boyfriends. i’m 14 and i have a boyfriend. i am an only child. my parents brought me up in a certain way and before i could even talk, greatly educated adults said i was incredibly different from other children. my mom knows and she trusts me. my boyfriend and i have great respect for each other and i don’t think of him as JUST a boyfriend. he’s my best friend. he tells me all the time, that just by one boy acting terribly, does NOT make ALL the boys in the world…. unpleasant. the same goes for girls in my opinion. i am not a person of the “in crowd” but those who are in that crowd…i stay far from them. i know how to act. sure, i may be childish and a tad wild sometimes, but not in a way that seems….. vulgar.
    anyways…..i just wanted to make that a point. some girls are responsible…exhibit A—> ME 😄 i try my best. we all do…<3

  2. May 15, 2010 6:23 pm

    This is from Friedman’s article, “Every girl in America knows from a heartbreakingly young age the list of things not to do if you don’t want to “get yourself raped:” Don’t go out by yourself. Don’t wear that. Don’t flirt with him. Don’t drink. Don’t get drunk. Watch your drink. But those warnings don’t keep girls safe.

    A 2007 study funded by the Department of Justice found that rates of rape didn’t decline at all in between 1992 and 2006, and in fact, may have increased. What they do is make it easy for others to blame us when someone attacks us, letting the rapist off the hook.”

    I agree with Friedman 100%. Let’s stop this blame the victim mentality please. Where is the article about dirty boy culture? In my job, I work for an agency that helps victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. We sure as heck don’t say, what were you wearing when he assaulted you, how drunk were you, why didn’t you cover up. We do not do that because it is NOT the victim’s fault. No means no, regardless of if you are drunk or not.

    Now, please don’t think I celebrate drunken idiocy, because I don’t but at the same time, let’s not just point the finger at females. Point the finger at the rapist by the keg pouring the drinks to take advantage of the scantily clad girl.

    I definitely want an article from CNN on how this behavior is celebrated in males too. Walk into any frat house rush week party. The guys do the exact same thing, so how come there is no attitude condemning their behavior?

    • michellezinkbooks permalink*
      May 15, 2010 6:50 pm

      I agree with everything you’ve said, April. I’m in the “bad/risky behavior is bad/risky behavior” camp!

      At the same time, I’m a realist, and I’ve made sure to talk to my teenage daughter about the things used to facilitate sexual assault, including excessive alcohol consumption. I’d love to tell her that she doesn’t have to think about those things because won’t be her fault if she gets assaulted (which is, of course, true!), but I’m more concerned with her safety than anything else. So while it might not be fair, she still knows that it’s not smart to drink to the point of oblivion – for more reasons than one.

      MZ

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